OUR NEW LIFE DOWN UNDER
New Life Down Under
When you think of emigrating and a new life down under you think of the sun, the beaches, the chance to make a new life for yourselves. But how does the reality shape up? In January this year, we; that is my husband, my two children and myself, upped sticks and moved to New Zealand. In this new blog series, I aim to provide a ‘warts and all’ view of what it’s really like to move your family 11,368 miles from home…
My husband came over to the UK in 2003, and a marriage and two kids later decided it was time to head back and spend some time with his family. We’ve visited the country so many times it already felt like a second home, but heading over to be with one family meant that we had to leave one behind.
Of course you think about what it’s going to be like saying goodbye to everyone. It’s never going to be an easy decision to make, and throughout everything you hope that you’ve made the right decision for everyone. It’s no mean feat to move your life over to the other side of the world… The logistics of it are enough to make you cry, let alone the emotional side…
We’ve been in New Zealand for almost three weeks now, and are fully adjusted to the new time zone. The children started their new school last week and have made good strides in making new friends and settling in. We’ve spent pretty much every waking minute trying to find a new house to buy and life has been busy busy busy.
In a way I’ve been thankful I’ve been so busy. Being far away from home and on opposite time zones to pretty much everyone you’ve ever known and loved can be tough. Especially when your brother has his first baby just a week after you leave. No amount of Facebook photos can make up for that new baby smell…
Happy – Sad Moments
It’s a strange feeling, being that far away from a major family event. Much like the music of ‘The Cure’, it’s a real happy-sad moment. You’re happy that it’s happened, you’re over the moon that this beautiful new life has entered the world, but at the same time you’re sad that you’re not a part of it. And while you can’t expect everyone to pop themselves into a box while you’re away from them, it would be kinda nice if they did, that way you wouldn’t need to miss anything.
In the early days, I found communication hard. You’re staying with friends or relatives. You don’t have access to a landline, and mobile phone charges make it tough to talk for very long. So you can feel very cut off from what’s going on ‘back home’. However, I found that once I had access to the internet it’s so much easier to connect now than ever before – I’ve used Facebook Messenger to call home and the quality is just as good as a phone call, plus it’s free!
Go With It
So while the home sickness comes and goes I’ve found that the best thing is to just go with it, let it do its thing and then gently move on when it’s done with you. Trying to fight it never gets you anywhere. Keep focused on the task in hand and you’ll get through!
The task in hand for this month has been to find us somewhere to live, and that is a whole new story…
This article was written by Maria Ingram from Alfie Winn she is creative, and is absolutely positive that the world is a better place with creative people in it. Maria also knows how hard it can be for creatives to tell the world they’re here. Which is why she is so passionate about helping them to find their story, grow their business, and reach their audience in an authentic and fulfilling way. In this series of articles she is letting us all in on her new life down under.